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Wednesday 20 August, 2008
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Money can't buy love

Recently i read an article in the times of india. It is about money coming in the way of a harmonious marriage and thus turning the relationship sour. I myself have been looking for a girl who can be my companion and friend.In our  Indian system, it is really important for the guy to be well to do. i also agree with that, finances have to be taken care of, it is the ingredient which runs life. In todays MNC, globalised working environ, where people earn like anything, they are missing out something very important than JUST Money. Whenever one talks to a family for a matrimonial alliance, the second or the third question is " How much package does the guy draw". personally  for me it is a full stop. I feel that money shud be a concern, but just money never runs life. i have seen marital discord between couples who are earning like anything. Frequent quarrels over petty issues, sometimes physical fight starts to plague their lives- mind you the couple earns in 6 sum figures. So what is missing ? any guesses?.. Patience, Understanding,Adjustments. i personally feel life is all about adjusting to different circumstances( come what may!). Till now i haven't found a single parent of a girl who has not asked me about my package/ctc or salary whatever one might call. The second or max the third question is "what is the package" a kinda euphemism for salary. Traditional family values are being lost to unnecessary materialistic views. Take this " You
can buy riches with your moolah, but excess dosh can drive away intimacy and
togetherness from a relationship".
More Money doesn't mean more happiness, true in present scenarios, where husband and wife work late, don't share joy or happiness( may be they don't get time- don't be so ciritcal !!). Sometimes th earning spree is such that the couple is left with so much money that either they can spend on their personal needs or spend on each other, the choice one makes is imprtant.
But what ever one can take from this, for me relationship , care and understanding is utmost, a couple who clings on to each other even in adverse situations comes out shining even if they are low on resources. May be too old fashioned and redundant to say in the present world.


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